I love strong women.
I was raised by strong women.
I gravitate to them because they inspire me.
I choose to surround myself with women who are supportive, understanding, honest, brave and real. I don’t have time to invest in people who do not value friendship as much as I do so over the years I’ve said goodbye to the flakes, the drama queens and the selfish ones.
I don’t have time for that!
My gorgeous friend Natalie is a strong woman. I’ve known her for about 3 years now and I have watched her work so hard, single-handedly raising a gorgeous little boy.
Being a parent is hard work. It’s hard work when there are two of you to tag team. I’m really grateful that my husband is really hands on and supportive. We’re a team. So I can only imagine how hard it must be to raise a child when you don’t have that side-kick. When it’s 3 in the morning and you don’t have anyone else to help.
This past year was unnecessarily difficult for Natalie. I say unnecessarily because her son was being failed by the school he was attending. She had to make the decision to move him to a new school. A decision I know she agonized over because while he was so unhappy every day, would moving him actually be better? Or could that make the situation worse?
Her son had turned from being happy, cheeky, smart and funny to being stressed out, sad and anxious. I know it broke her heart to watch him and not be able to fix it. To be trying everything possible and not have the support he needed.
It’s not my place to go into details but I’m so mad that this lovely little boy and his amazing mum had to ride that rollercoaster of stress because of a bully.
If you choose to make someone else’s life a misery you are a bully.
If you choose to allow your child to bully someone then in my opinion you are failing your child. I don’t want to be judgemental but I can’t see any situation where bullying is acceptable. As parents it is our responsibility to make sure our children have respect and are kind to other people.
And if you are an adult who makes a child’s life miserable you are the worst kind of bully in my mind. How do you not know better?
The truth is there will always be nasty, horrible, evil human beings in this world so the only way we can fight against them is to not allow them to change who we are but to focus our energy on something positive.
That is exactly what Natalie did.
She has started a business creating the most beautiful unisex t-shirts with phrases to empower our children.
I can’t tell you just how much this woman inspires me. She had the courage to turn a horrible experience into something positive. To show her son that the bullies will never win.
One of the many phrases I’ve found myself repeating to my daughter since she was born is “you must be kind.”
I think we could all be a little kinder, braver and stronger. We can set the example.
Natalie’s son is now settling into his new school and just in the short amount of time he’s been there you can already see the change in him. In turn you also can see the change in her.
Nat – you should be so proud of yourself for fighting to make sure your son is happy. I know it was such a tough time but you did it. You did it by yourself!
You got this mama x
Here is the link to Mother & Cub – see for yourself how awesome the designs are. Part of the proceeds are going to an anti-bullying charity which is just incredible.