Marriage – Three years on. An open letter to my husband

Ash & I have been married for 3 years today!  I can honestly say that our marriage has been one of the best things I’ve ever done.

So what better time to put out some thoughts on what I’ve learned from the last 3 years.

*WARNING* This might be a bit soppy for some of you.

Given all the tragic things that are going on at the minute I don’t think it’s ever a bad thing to be thankful for the people you love and to tell them out loud.

This world can never have too much love!

Ash & I are only at the start of our adventure together but given everything that life has thrown at us in the last few years I’m pretty sure there isn’t a lot we couldn’t handle.

We’ve been friends for nearly 20 years now.  I honestly believe it’s our friendship that will take us through the best and worst of life together.

Am I Lucky?

I always get told how lucky I am to have Ash and while I’m grateful for the things that he does I’m not sure it counts as luck.  I chose to spend my life with him because of the person that he is.

Luck didn’t bring us together, life did.

I know there is a lot he does for me without question or complaint which isn’t a given for most people but I equally try to do as much for him and our family.

It has to be a constant balance and that takes effort.  Luck doesn’t require effort – choice does.

I chose him.

“And I’d choose you; in a hundred lifetimes, in a hundred worlds, in any version of reality, I’d find you and I’d choose you.” Kiersten White

Ash couldn’t be more opposite to me.

He’s thoughtful, caring, considerate and calm.

I swear nothing phases him.  It’s something I love and hate about him in equal measure!

I know some people put our marriage on a pedestal and while that is a huge compliment let me be real with you, as much as I love that man  sometimes I want to punch him in the face. 😆

You know those 3 o’clock in the morning arguments you have when you are sleep deprived and neither one of you knows what to do to stop the baby from screaming.

That’s the reality of it! I still wouldn’t have it any other way.

I remember our wedding day like it was yesterday.  The excitement and not feeling nervous at all.  It just felt as if, finally, me & my partner in crime for all those years would be official.

I know I have talked before about wanting to call off the wedding. (I know, so dramatic) but that was mainly because I wanted more for Ash than I thought I could give him following my MS diagnosis.

Fast forward 3 years and I’m happy I trusted that he knew better (for once) and his amazing trait of taking everything in his stride is the calm to my storm.

Marriage advice?

Lots of people offered us marriage advice on our wedding day. These are our top 3 for the first 3 years;

  1.  Make time for each other
  2.  Don’t go to bed on an argument
  3.  Communication is key!



I know I’ve said it before but who would have thought all those years ago we’d be here right now?

3 years of marriage successfully under our belt.  Raising an amazing, curly haired, strong willed, whirlwind of a daughter!

I’m so excited to see where our life takes us in the next 3 years.

I try to tell you as often as I can how much I appreciate everything you do for me and Isla.

You are genuinely my best friend in this whole world, you know all my secrets and I know I can tell you anything without fear of judgement.

That’s pretty amazing.

You are pretty amazing.

So thank you for being my husband.  I can’t think of anyone else I’d want to share the rest of my days with.

No, not even Idris Elba!

So to my elder, the yin to my yang and my favourite partner in crime,

Happy Anniversary

I’ll love you always xx

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